My Pen is Mightier than my Sword–It is my Savior

My beautiful friend is the proud new owner of a shiny sparkler.  That’s right, she’s engaged, and I couldn’t be happier for her.  She is one of the most deserving people I know and love has found her.  Soon she will be a Mrs. and my girlfriends and I excitedly wait to stand by her … Continue reading

Playlist Files: My Top 25 Break-up Songs

As a writer, words, especially lyrics, resonate with me and feed my soul.  The power of words never ceases to amaze me—they can pump you up, tear you apart, leave you breathless or empathize with you when you need it the most.  I was 18 when I bought my first I-Pod.  I uploaded so many … Continue reading

The Beauty of Letting Go: Five Ways to Move on

The days following the end of a real romance are anything but pretty—they are, at best, sloppy.  As those long days of to-call-or-not-to-call, or in some cases, to-stalk-or-not-to-stalk linger by, months begin to pile up and before you know it, your life has transformed  into the black abyss that was once a happy little union.  … Continue reading

Little Boy, can’t you find Never Land?

“All children, except one, grow up…” –Peter Pan “‘Puer Aeternus’– the eternal adolescent, the sempiternal Peter Pan – is a phenomenon often associated with pathological narcissism. People who refuse to grow up strike others as self-centred and aloof, petulant and brattish, haughty and demanding – in short: as childish or infantile. The narcissist is a … Continue reading

The Face of Abuse: One Year Later

Author’s Note:  Almost one year ago I wrote this article, never thinking it would be published or find the spotlight of recognition for other survivors.  For nearly a year, I have placed my hospital bracelet near my bed to remind me of a place I once visited and never wish to see again.  Sometimes in … Continue reading

I am Me.

  (Photo courtesy Smashapps.org) “Are you still you?” she asked.  I didn’t know how to answer.  Am I still the exuberant, hopeless romantic little girl I once was?  The brown-eyed, full-hearted girl that dreamt too big and loved too much?  I just didn’t know.  It was in reflecting the fellow narcissistic abuse survivor’s question that … Continue reading

“I think I deserve something beautiful…”

 “Every once in a while, a girl has to indulge herself.”  (Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City)  I love… My Pom  My Summers at the Beach   Summer Sunsets  Wishes Young love Travel + Louis Vuitton = My Heaven Japanese Fashion Bubbles   Umbrellas (Please note, only first 3 photos from the top are mine, all … Continue reading

Surprises over Settling

“God never slams a door in your face without opening a box of Girl Scout cookies…” (Eat, Pray, Love)   They say when God closes a door, he opens a window.  But what happens if you spend your time sitting at the wrong window? Once the book finally slammed shut on my relationship with my psychologically … Continue reading

“It took a while to understand the beauty of just letting go”

“If you don’t want me to write bad songs about you, then don’t do bad things.” (–Taylor Swift) My eyes burned.  Crouched in a pool of tears, I couldn’t see—life and everything around me had suddenly become so blurry.  What just happened and how did I get here?  That Sunday morning began like any other: … Continue reading

Mirror, Mirror on the wall…

“Everyone thinks that I have it all But it’s so empty living behind these castle walls If I should tumble if I should fall Would any one hear me screaming behind these castle walls There’s no-one here at all, behind these castle walls” (Christina Aguilera/T.I. “Castle Walls”) Like most little girls, I dreamed to live … Continue reading