I’m not who I used to be.

I know it’s pretty soon to be contemplating New Year’s and the ill-fated ditch-the-Ben-and-Jerry’s-for-a-rice-cake resolutions (come on, do any of us really make it past January 2 anyway?) that come with the dropping of the ball, but change has been on my mind as of late.  Maybe it’s the swirling smells and colorful palette of … Continue reading

I love(d) you.

I made a mistake.  Without realizing it or even wishing for it, I fell in love.  Eight years ago I felt something I never expected to feel for someone I never saw coming into my life.  I loved him. I fought for him; I fought for us.  I fought for a future, for an “I … Continue reading

A Reason & A Cold Season

Sometimes life is a puzzle and certain pieces that once fit snugly into the picture’s perfection, no longer seem to fit, no matter how hard you squeeze.  Today was one of those hard days, those days in which I had to let someone go because our lives were no longer fitting together, the bonds no … Continue reading

Playlist Files: My Top 25 Break-up Songs

As a writer, words, especially lyrics, resonate with me and feed my soul.  The power of words never ceases to amaze me—they can pump you up, tear you apart, leave you breathless or empathize with you when you need it the most.  I was 18 when I bought my first I-Pod.  I uploaded so many … Continue reading

The Beauty of Letting Go: Five Ways to Move on

The days following the end of a real romance are anything but pretty—they are, at best, sloppy.  As those long days of to-call-or-not-to-call, or in some cases, to-stalk-or-not-to-stalk linger by, months begin to pile up and before you know it, your life has transformed  into the black abyss that was once a happy little union.  … Continue reading

Sometimes it lasts in love…

You know how the time flies Only yesterday It was the time of our lives We were born and raised In a summer haze Bound by the surprise Of our glory days  

Food for thought…

“There are only two questions that human beings have ever fought over, all through history. ‘How much do you love me?’ And, ‘Who’s in charge?’ Everything else is somehow manageable. But these two questions of love and control undo us all, trip us up and cause war, grief, and suffering.” –Eat, Pray, Love Even as … Continue reading

My personal “instructions for freedom”

Sometimes lessons can show themselves in the most obvious of ways… but other times it takes the darkness of change to shed light on life’s much-needed memos of growth.  My Year in Lessons… 1.   The true meaning of a soul mate… “People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. … Continue reading

I am Me.

  (Photo courtesy Smashapps.org) “Are you still you?” she asked.  I didn’t know how to answer.  Am I still the exuberant, hopeless romantic little girl I once was?  The brown-eyed, full-hearted girl that dreamt too big and loved too much?  I just didn’t know.  It was in reflecting the fellow narcissistic abuse survivor’s question that … Continue reading

V-Day is ‘Me-Day’

For all the amazing women out there, plant your own garden and be your own Valentine “Comes the Dawn” Veronica A. Shoffstall After a while you learn the subtle difference Between holding a hand and chaining a soul, and you learn that love doesn’t mean leaning, and company doesn’t mean security, and you begin to … Continue reading